Cheating With a Vibrator

Is it considered cheating if a woman uses a vibrator?

Many men have strong opinions about mechanical pleasure devices and whether or not a woman should use one. Men fall in two categories:

a) They do not want their girl to own or use one. These men consider it cheating.

b) The more adventurous or kinky chap has no issue, may even buy her one and some even incorporate it into playtime.


Group A are often religious and/or old fashioned in believing that a woman’s orgasms are solely the job of a man. (Religion doesn’t always have anything to do with it; I’ve seen atheists with just as strong views.) These guys tend to also be against masturbation via her hand as well as other instruments: cucumbers, electric toothbrush or whatever else a lady might decide to put between her legs.

Some might say these fellows are insecure. While a few are, I think it goes back to a previous blog I wrote on ladies being demure beings that only turn into sex kittens when her man enters the bedroom.

http://dewytulips.blogspot.com/2011/02/lady-in-parlor-whore-in-bedroom.html

She is to keep her thoughts clean and not even consider ideas of a naked nature until he turns her on. He has the only remote to her clitoris and until he hits the button she is to remain chaste.

I live in the Bible belt so I know all about these men. It is the reason many southern states have laws against vibrators.

So back to our question: is it cheating?

If your man has told you he does not want you to have one, then in his mind yes you are cheating. Technically, anything you do behind your spouse’s back of a sexual nature is cheating. In the right state, with a patriarchal judge and a good lawyer he may even have grounds for divorce in states with laws against them.

Should a woman buy one anyway?

While I do not encourage lying or cheating I will say this. IF your man travels, is in the military and is gone a lot; or IF he has a low libido I say, “yes.”

In my opinion having and using a vibrator is much better than chasing down the UPS man who may be happy to help you out but not a good idea. Sometimes a girl has to take matters into her own hand, so to speak, and if your husband/boyfriend thought about it very long would agree that using a dildo is much better than finding a boy toy.

Hide it well, what he doesn't know won't hurt him; not really.

While a man might have a harder time finding a woman to accommodate him without paying her, women don’t have to look very far, at least in most cases. So to me it is much better than cheating with the real thing.

Hysteria was a Victorian name for a sexually frustrated woman with a bad case of nerves. While I don’t believe this disorder/disease to be real I will tell you that a female who hasn’t had sex in a while can be a bit difficult to live with.

Will women prefer a vibrator to a man?

I’m sure there are exceptions just like there are some men that prefer masturbation to sex with women but in most cases nothing beats the feel, smell and taste of a real man. A vibrator can’t put his arms around you, snuggle up in bed or say sweet words in your ear.

Lesbians aren’t interested in men to begin with so in their case a mechanical device doesn’t make any difference.

Should you put it inside your vagina?

Hygiene issues aside,(hopefully you are cleaning it after each use and storing it well) there are laws in some states that are okay as long as you don’t penetrate your lady bits with foreign objects.

Back in Victorian times when doctors treated women for hysteria, they had machines that tickled a woman’s clitoris but never went inside. In fact there was a huge controversy about the first pap smears because back then only a woman’s husband was allowed to enter her vagina and putting instruments inside was considered a big no-no.

I know some women only orgasm with penetration so do whatever you feel is necessary and right for you.

Only Feminists and Lesbians use vibrators.

I am neither a feminist nor a lesbian; I’m not even bisexual. Typically the men who are firmly against vibrators say this and while many feminist and lesbians are avid users, women who seek the pleasure of these devices don’t necessarily fall into either group.


There is a movie coming out called Hysteria but I couldn’t find a trailer for it yet. Sounds like it could be interesting. Here is a story about the movie.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/nov/07/vibrator-victorian-women-film-hysteria